🌹 “They are trying to reach you. Discover the surprising reasons you haven’t felt them yet — and the simple shifts that open the door.”
💫 You’re here for a reason. You’ve been longing for a sign from a loved one who has passed, and nothing seems to come. You’re not alone. This happens often, and there’s nothing wrong. In my experience, many people have asked me why they haven’t received a sign — even when others around them have. Spirit is always trying to reach out to us. Sometimes the messages just show up and sometimes, some are harder to receive. I’ve listed six common reasons why this may be happening to you and what you can do to open yourself up to the connection you’re longing for.
From My Heart to Yours
Hello.
You’re here because you want answers and I have them.
Before I go on, I want you to know… I’m sorry for your loss.
I know grief very well. I know the loss of loved ones. And I know the heartache and pain… and the longing to see them again, hear them laugh again, hold them again… hear them moving through the house..
Believe me, I know it well though I am blessed to have received many signs from my loved ones who have passed on.
Over the years, many people have asked me: “Why haven’t I gotten a sign?” “Why did everyone else in the family get something — but not me?”
And so I’m sharing this information with you in hopes that these insights can help you allow and recognize the signs when they come.
Because it’s not always a full-body apparition where you see them clearly.
It’s not always a blatant, “in-your-face” sign or how we want it to be.
But they’re there.
And now… let’s begin.
Reason 1: You May Be Blocking Yourself
Let’s start with what’s hardest to hear, but often the most liberating truth:
Sometimes, you are unknowingly blocking the very thing you want.
When you’re aching so deeply — waiting for a sign, watching for it, longing for it — you might actually be squeezing the energy too tightly to let it flow.
Spirit messages require openness, not effort.
When the heart is clenched in grief or expectation, the energy becomes cloudy. And that’s okay. That’s human. But it’s one reason why signs can feel absent — even when your loved ones are near.
When Spirit Stepped In…
Many years ago, I was a missionary in South America. That wasn’t the beginning of my spiritual journey, but it was one of the many sacred paths I walked.
There was a story circulating among the missionaries — a story I’ve never forgotten.
A young missionary — barely in his twenties — was tragically killed while serving. His body was flown home.
And his father, overwhelmed with grief, locked himself in his room for three days. He sobbed. He wailed. He couldn’t understand why God had taken his young son — so full of life.
The man’s family was extremely worried for him, because he wasn’t eating or drinking. He stayed in his room, lost in his sorrow.
And during that time… the son appeared to his mother. He said:
“Mom, Dad wants to see me. I’m trying so hard to reach him. I’m right in front of him, but he’s crying so hard I can’t get through. Please tell him to let me in. Please tell him to stop — so I can get through.”
That moment stayed with me all these years. The son was trying — desperately — to reach his father. To let him know he was okay. That he didn’t suffer. That he was at peace.
But the father’s grief was so overwhelming, it became a wall. A veil. And even though his son stood just beyond it — he couldn’t break through.
So if you’re holding that kind of grief — please don’t blame yourself. But do allow yourself to soften, even just a little, so the ones you miss can come through in the way they’re trying to.
a woman came to me for a psychic reading.
It was a beautiful session, full of clarity and peace.
Her cousin sat quietly nearby.
When the session ended, I felt the woman was… disappointed.
Her cousin leaned in and whispered,
“Her mother just died. She was hoping for a message from her.”
I hadn’t known. But without missing a beat, I said,
“She’s not ready to get a message yet.”
The cousin looked at me in disbelief.
“How did you know that? You’re right. She’s not ready.
She wouldn’t be able to handle it. She’s grieving too much.”
And that’s the thing…
Sometimes, Spirit waits — not because they aren’t trying,
but because the one left behind is too fragile to hear the message just yet.
Love waits for permission.
✧ Reason 2: Grief Creates Static in the Field
Grief isn’t just emotional.
It’s vibrational.
When you’re deep in heartbreak, your frequency becomes distorted.
It’s not your fault — it’s just what happens.
It’s a natural occurrence,
because when our emotions are out of balance,
they ripple through our energy field,
and that creates distortion — like a wave trying to travel through stormy waters.
Now think of how a radio works.
When you’re tuned to the exact broadcast frequency,
the music comes through.
It comes in clearly.
But if your dial is even a little off —
you don’t hear the song.
You hear static.
Crackling.
Silence.
You have to fine-tune the radio station
to the exact right frequency
in order to hear the music.
But here’s the thing:
The station is still broadcasting.
The signal is being sent.
You just can’t hear it —
because something is interfering with the reception.
And sometimes, the signal doesn’t just fade —
it actually bounces off layers in the atmosphere and skips right over you,
like it’s trying to land but can’t find a place to rest.
The energy ricochets — because of conditions beyond your control.
That’s what happens when grief floods the field.
So it’s not that your deceased loved ones aren’t sending the signal.
They are.
But your inner dial might be too full of static to catch it.
Or the grief is so heavy, their message is bouncing — unable to break through.
This is why you might dream of them,
or feel them when you least expect it —
in the quiet, in the shower,
on a walk,
in the space between missing and remembering.
Those are moments when the static clears.
When your heart softens.
When the frequency lines up —
and they come through.
You are not broken.
You are not forgotten.
You are simply surrounded by emotional weather right now.
And they… are still trying to reach you through the storm.
✧ Reason 3: It May Simply Be Too Soon
If your loved one passed recently,
or if their death was traumatic, sudden, or unresolved,
it may be too soon to feel them.
It may be too soon for them.
I’ve experienced this firsthand.
her boyfriend had passed suddenly and unexpectedly.
She was desperate to hear from him.
It had only been a few days since the funeral,
and she wanted a session right away.
But I didn’t want to know how he passed.
I simply sat with his name.
And what I heard was:
“Three weeks. I’m not ready.”
So I told her — gently — that she’d have to wait.
She was disappointed, of course.
But I could hear him clearly,
and I could feel that he was still processing.
There was no flow.
He was still adjusting.
Three weeks passed.
We reconnected.
And it was beautiful.
He came through so clearly —
saying things only he could have known.
We both cried —
especially when I shared what he wanted her to know
about personal items she hadn’t mentioned to me…
but that he told me to tell her.
And then, as we were wrapping up, I said,
“I don’t know why, but right now I’m craving a meatball sandwich.”
She burst into tears.
She used to make him meatball sandwiches all the time —
his favorite.
He loved her cooking.
It was his way of saying,
“Really. It’s really me. And I remember.”
It was his way of telling her he loved her.
And that he would never forget.
Sometimes, they just need time —
not only to transition,
but to gather the pieces of who they were
and how they want to show up for you now.
They’ve just completed the most profound separation —
the end of their earthly life.
They’ve left the weight of their body behind —
the body that housed them for their earthly lifetime.
They learned how to walk… to run…
how to get from place to place, to feed themselves in that physical body.
They enjoyed taste and smells and aromas.
And now… they’re learning how to walk again — in spirit.
It’s completely different.
It’s not like parking a car, getting out, closing the door,
and then simply getting into another one.
It takes time to acclimate to life on the other side.
Just as you had to grow into your physical body when you were born,
learning to sit, to crawl, to walk —
your loved ones, too, must adjust to being back in their original form.
They are learning to be spirit again.
To move as pure energy.
To communicate without words.
To remember how to exist in a space without gravity or time.
Think of a young child learning how to swim —
floating with inflatable armbands,
kicking in the shallow end,
hesitant at first… but so happy.
They’re learning how to move in water safely.
Just like babies,
recently transitioned souls may wear spiritual water wings —
not because they can’t swim,
but because they’re just beginning to adjust.
They’re also reconnecting with family and friends on the other side.
They’re experiencing reunions.
Receiving love.
Healing.
Taking a breather.
Taking it all in.
They’re attending their own funerals —
their own ceremonies — memorial services.
And yes — they are grieving too.
They ache because they watch us cry,
and they don’t know how to comfort us just yet.
They worry about us just as we ache for them.
It stayed with me for many years.
He describes a ship leaving the shore.
All the loved ones are gathered around to say goodbye.
As they watch the ship slowly pull away, they’re crying, waving, calling out to their loved ones who are leaving —
and the loved ones on the ship are waving too,
calling back to them, “I’ll see you soon… I’ll see you soon.”
But what the people left behind on shore don’t see
is that, on the other side of that horizon —
on another distant shore —
a crowd is already gathered.
They’re standing at the dock,
waiting with joy, anticipation and excitement.
Just like when you pick up a friend at the airport or train station —
you can’t wait to hug them again.
And as that ship approaches,
they begin to cheer:
“Here she comes! Here she comes!”
That’s what death is.
It’s not the end.
It’s a return.
The ones we love are still traveling.
They’re still transitioning.
And while we mourn them here…
they are being celebrated there.
So if you’re feeling empty now —
if the silence is heavy —
trust this:
They may not be ready to step into your field just yet.
They may still be processing their entry.
They may be waiting for the right energetic moment —
the right tender moment to reach you.
They might be waiting for your frequency to match theirs —
just like we talked about with the radio station.
They may be waiting for you to fine-tune your dial
to what they’re broadcasting on.
But they will come.
In scent.
In memory.
In dream.
In numbers.
In synchronicity.
In music.
In the song that plays right when you need it.
Let them take their time.
Give them that space.
They’ve just been through something very real.
And let yourself grieve.
Because when the time is right —
you will feel them again.
Something will happen… and you’ll know.
You’ll just know.
And it will be good.
You can read the full poem here:
“What Is Dying” by Reverend Luther F. Beecher
✧ Reason 4: You’re Expecting a Specific Sign from a Specific Person
One of the biggest blocks to receiving a sign is having your heart set on one exact person or one exact sign.
Maybe it’s your partner, your parent, your child, or a dear friend.
Maybe you even made an agreement before they passed — a special code word, a symbol, or “proof” that they would send you so you’d know it was them.
But Spirit doesn’t always follow our scripts — and neither do our loved ones in Spirit.
Sometimes another soul comes first. There have been many times during a reading or mediumship session where we’ve reached out to connect with a specific person, but another loved one — or even several — came through first. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, and in the Spirit world, whoever has the strongest energy in that moment will often step forward first.
That doesn’t mean the one you’re waiting for isn’t there — it simply means someone else had the energy or urgency to speak first, and sometimes they’re helping prepare the space for your most hoped-for connection.
And sometimes, the signs themselves are gentler, quieter, or more symbolic — a bird at your window, a flicker of light in the corner of your eye, a song on the radio at just the right moment, or even a child’s innocent comment that gives you chills.
I share many of these in my video 14 Signs from Your Deceased Loved Ones — and they’re all ways Spirit bridges the gap.
When we focus only on one outcome, we can miss the miracle that’s already right in front of us.
We might be holding out for that unmistakable tap on the shoulder… or a full-bodied apparition in the room. But those take tremendous energy, and they may not be possible right now.
It’s much easier for Spirit to send a cardinal, a penny or dime, the faint scent of your mother’s favorite perfume, or a sudden wave of warmth that feels like a hug.
Love will take the easiest pathway it can to reach you.
If you can open your heart to any sign — not just the one you pictured — you may discover they’ve been speaking to you all along.
✧ Reason 5: Doubt Cancels the Moment
Doubt — last but not least.
Even when the signs do come, many people push them away.
They say, “I probably imagined that,” or “That was just a coincidence.”
When we do that, we collapse the bridge between our physical reality and their spiritual world as it’s being built.
Spirit — our loved ones in spirit — will never override your free will.
They’ll show up gently, in ways that meet you where you are. But if you greet them with disbelief or constant second-guessing, they’ll step back — not out of punishment, but because they honor your boundaries.
This doesn’t mean you have to force belief or pretend you feel something you don’t.
It means being willing to stay open. To be curious. To allow.
To receive without needing to control exactly how the connection happens.
And here’s the deeper truth of all of this — when you trust yourself, doubt has far less room to grow.
When you trust your instincts… when you allow yourself to believe what you’ve felt, seen, or heard in your own soul… you create a welcome space for Spirit to meet you there.
Your intuition is your soul’s language. If something touches you deeply, if it brings a sudden wave of love or peace, if it feels like them — honor that.
The more you trust your inner knowing, the more you’ll trust what you see… and what your heart and mind interpret.
You’ll know what’s real and what’s not.
It’s not about proving the sign.
It’s about allowing and recognizing the moment to exist exactly as it is.
Because when your heart says, “This was real,”
when your gut tells you it was real…
Spirit can whisper back,
“Yes… and here’s the next one.”
✧ Reason 6: Illness — Especially Long COVID — Can Weaken Your Energy Field
Physical illness, particularly long COVID, can create challenges in connecting with Spirit. The fatigue, brain fog, and digestive struggles are very real, but they also ripple into your energy body. When your physical system is depleted, your vibration lowers, making it harder to sense the subtle presence of your loved ones. Spirit understands this. They know your body is healing and they wait with patience. Their love doesn’t disappear — it flows around you like a current, holding you until you are strong enough to feel them again. Just as grief creates static, illness can muffle the signal too — but that doesn’t mean you are forgotten. It means Spirit is meeting you where you are, loving you through the storm of your recovery.
Note: Many people are now searching about the spiritual impact of long COVID — including whether illness blocks psychic ability or makes it harder to receive signs from loved ones. If you’ve wondered this, you are not alone. Illness can cloud your energy field, but Spirit is always with you, waiting for those moments when your body and heart are open enough to feel their presence again.
✧ What You Can Do
So… what now?
You breathe.
You soften.
You let go.
Let go of the strain.
Because the signs don’t come to those who chase…
or to those who stay closed in grief and longing.
If you’re holding on… and holding on…
you can’t be open.
Think of it this way —
when you’re holding on to a pencil,
your hand is closed.
Nothing else can come in.
You have to open your hand.
Let go of the pencil.
Make room to receive something new.
This isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about opening… more expansively.
It’s about saying, with your whole heart:
I’m willing. I’m here. I’m listening.
When you’re ready… in your time…
and if you have something to say to me.
So right now — let’s do this together.
You can whisper it if you’d like,
or simply let my voice carry it to your heart:
I’m ready to receive…
in whatever form is most correct and beneficial for me.
Even if it’s quiet.
Even if it’s small.
Even if it makes me cry.
Even if it surprises me.
I’m ready — and I allow.
And then… let it be.
Stay aware.
Stay present.
Go on with your life.
The best way you can honor them… is by living fully.
They are there for a reason.
You are still here for a reason.
You are not going on without them —
because they have never truly left.
They are still in spirit form.
They are still in reality.
They are pure energy.
And you… are pure energy.
The time will come when you’ll see each other again.
It’s like when your partner gets up to run errands…
and you stay home.
You kiss each other goodbye… and say, I’ll see you tonight.
Then you each go about your day,
trusting you’ll meet again later —
at home… or at a restaurant…
or maybe at a friend’s for dinner.
You trust in that reunion.
And that trust… allows you to keep living.
You must go on.
Because you’re here for a reason.
What is your purpose?
Why are you here?
What are you here to learn?
Listen.
Watch what comes to you.
Notice what shows up in your tender spaces when you’re aware…
in the quiet between thoughts…
in the pause between missing… and remembering.
Because the answers are there.
And so is your loved one.
because of my own Mama.
I was named after her.
And when she passed, I was very young.
I lost my best friend.
Years later, in my mid-30s,
she began appearing in my dreams.
Over and over.
And I became determined —
one day I would turn one of those dreams lucid,
so I could finally ask the questions
I’d been carrying for so long.
And one night… I did.
I asked her, “Mama, what was it like when you died?”
She smiled and said, “Father came for me —”
meaning her father, my great-grandfather Luigi.
I asked, “What’s it like there?”
She said, “Oh, we’re all together.”
She had a large Italian family —
brothers, sisters —
and she laughed and told me,
“We still bicker and fight and make up,
just like when we were alive.
It’s the same.”
Then I asked her the question
that mattered most:
“All those times I cried because I missed you so much…
and I told you I loved you…
did you ever hear me?”
She looked at me with so much love and said,
“Yes, Jenny. Every time.”
And that’s how I know…
your loved ones hear you too.
Every word.
Every tear.
Every I love you.
They have been trying to get through somehow.
They are loving you from a place without time —
where it is always right now.
Love doesn’t end when a heartbeat stops.
Connection doesn’t disappear.
The bond continues — always.
Energy cannot be destroyed.
It always exists.
It just changes form.
And when the time is right…
you will feel them again —
not just as memory…
but as presence.
Closing Words:
Thank you for being here,
and for allowing me to share this with you.
My mother always said to me,
“Stay spiritual.”
So I leave you with those words from my mom…
and I’ll see you next time.
With love, always—
Jenny 
Jenny E. Weeks 